Q. Who can come to the party?
This party is for cisgendered women and transgendered women whose gender identity is female. We do not require that the gender marker on your state-issued identification be "female". We ask only that you self-identify as female.
Q. Will crossdressers be allowed at the party?
In the spirit of understanding, we define a crossdresser as an individual who wears the clothing the opposite gender, but does not identify as that gender.
We encourage our attendees to dress in whatever way they are most comfortable. However, SHE is a party for WOMEN.
Self-identified male crossdressers are not invited to SHE.
Q. Will butch women be allowed at the party?
Absolutely, butch women are allowed to attend. The defining factor whether someone is allowed in or not all depends on whether they see themselves as a woman. Even if she is wearing clothing that makes her presentation of gender ambiguous or is wearing men's clothing, if she identifies as a women, she is invited.
Q. Will female-to-male transgender individuals be allowed at the party?
If the individual does not identify as a woman, then that person is not invited to SHE. SHE is a party for women.
Q. What does cisgendered mean anyway?
The prefix "cis", with a soft "c", has its roots in Latin and means "on the same side as". Conversely, the prefix "trans" means "across from". The word cisgendered refers to an individual whose gender identity matches their assigned birth sex. Transgender is a label used to indicate that someone's gender identify does not match his or her assigned birth sex.
Q. What kind of party is this?
It's a fun party. That's not the answer you're looking for, huh? Okay, beyond having an inclusive women's space, the feel of the party is evolving as we speak. To that end, we've adopted the idea of different themes for the parties. For the first party, the theme is "Sugar and Spice", referring to the sensual and kinky acts that we are capable of and delight in exploring. Some future themes that have been suggested include "A Goddess A Month", "Tastings", and "Sensations!". If there's something you'd like to see, drop us a line on FetLife or on CenterSpace.
Our themes In September and October were "Safety!" and "Creatures of the Night". November's theme is the "Food Orgy". If you have never been to such a party, the thing to remember that during a food orgy, you may not feed yourself. In December, we celebrate "After Dark" and everything that happens when the sun goes down. Melody Anderson, of
the Emeral Rain Bellydance Company, will be giving us a taste of her
"Steamier Side of Bellydance" class by conducting a free workshop during the social hour starting at 8:00 PM.
Q. This sounds cool! How can I help?
There are volunteer slots that
we need to fill or take a look at the
CSPC_She group on Fetlife or the
SHE group on CenterSpace, sometimes we'll post things that we need a volunteer for. In the end, we'd like to build out a full team to help run the event from month to month including advertising, setup, food crew, floor staff, etc. I'm sure the idea of what kinds of roles we need on the team will continue to evolve as the party grows.
Q. Where and when is this party being held?
SHE is held every third Friday from 9pm to 2am, at the Center for
Sex Positive Culture in Seattle, Washington. For more information about the Center for Sex Positive Culture, please see
the website.
Q. Who's putting the party together and is running it?
The party is run by amber (slaveamber - fetlife.com, slaveamber - centerspace.org), Lilith (lilithvf1998 - fetlife.com, lilithvf1998 - centerspace.org), and Lissa (swtlissa - fetlife.com, lissa - centerspace.org). There are several more volunteers who are working to help make this party happen and we can always use more help.
Q. I have questions that are not listed here, who do I ask?
That's an easy question to answer! Just send an e-mail to she @ sexpositiveculture . org and one, or more, of us will get back to you.
Q. All of these questions are great, but do you have an attendance policy that I can read?
Certainly!
SHE Attendance Policy
- This party is for all women.
- By entering this party, you agree that you identify as female.
- We reserve the right to respectfully and politely ask you for clarification if there is a question with regard to your gender presentation.
- We also reserve the right to respectfully and politely ask you to leave, if we feel that you do not meet our attendance criteria, or if your presence is disruptive to the event.
